When I found out I was pregnant with Walt and Whitney I worried how having twins would affect my relationship with Turner. I knew bringing two babies in to the world would be tough on everyone. Turner was 3 years old when they were born. He connected with his siblings pretty quickly, but didn't pay much attention to them. He would hug them when he came home from school and then run off to do his own thing.
It was hard to give Turner the attention he needed when the babies required so much of my time and energy. I realized he needed one on one time with Alex and I and so we started the tradition of Turner dates. Most weekends Alex will take Turner to Jersey Mike's for a sandwich. I usually combine an errand, a bit of shopping and food in our dates. Sometimes they are on a weeknight and sometimes on a weekend.
We recently took a date to The Arboretum at Great Hills and enjoyed food and shopping. Two of our favorite things! Our first stop included lunch at Blue Baker, a craft bakery and pizzeria. I had the broccoli and cheese bread bowl and Turner had the pepperoni pizza.
With a little convincing, Turner joined me for some shopping at Gap, which is where most of my wardrobe and kids' wardrobe comes from. I loved watching him walk around the store pointing out things he liked, such as an on sale Christmas sweater that was for a 6 month old. "Mom, can I get this?!" Ummm no, sorry bud. He has his own sense of style and refuses for me to pick out any of his outfits. I can't get on to him, because I was the exact same way as a kid and I loved that my mom allowed me to express myself through fashion.
The days are long but the years are short. That's exactly how I feel about motherhood. It's exhausting and stressful. Turner can drive me nuts sometimes, but one on one time where I have no other distractions helps me to stop time for a bit and fully enjoy his personality.